Gone are the days when the
husband has been coined as the one who started infidelity issues, even wives
would tend to be involved in being unfaithful to their husbands especially if
they are away for the longest time. An explanation for this is that wives are
looking for somebody who they can give their full attention with while their
husbands are gone. A husband who continuously doubts on his wife may ask for
the services of a private investigator to uncover the truth regarding your wife
by conducting surveillance which involves talking to the individuals that may
have taken part through the case or by providing photo, audio and video
evidences which would be used to prove the case in court. Once that the idea of
“cheating” has been settled, most of the time, the aggrieved parties tend to
resort to looking over the legal matters and try to find out if they can sue
the cheaters – the wife and the lover.
Unfortunately, there is no
constant law that says that you can claim against the lover of your wife
without him doing things to you: for example – your wife’s lover would tend to
act on the properties that both you and your wife own, harass you over several
modes of communication or even vandalize your property to threaten you, then
you could refer to lawyers so they could give you the right way for you to
handle your cases. There is a stipulation of the law which is called
“alienation to affection” which is not available in all countries as a law
which some used. This is a lawsuit that when the faithful spouse sues the
unfaithful spouse’s lover for taking the love of a married man. However, like
how it was mentioned, this is not available for everyone and would take a
longer period to finish because you have to gather evidences to prove that you
have a strong case.
Once that you have
bankrolled the investigation of the “alienation to affection” to any country
that has accepted that law suit, you must know how to lay your cards where you
still have to project that you are a strong guy, even if you are going through
a lot. Also, you must be able to insist that there is really an affair with
them, when you have a court decision, you would be able to claim for moral
damages and distress to your wife’s lover. However, if the suit is not
available, it is better to fix your things with the wife rather than go after
the lover because you were the ones who had the promise of forever and not your
wife’s lover.
Moving on is a pretty
tough sentiment to deal with especially when you know that the woman you once
loved left you for somebody else, but if you would not like to entertain much
pressure within you, settle things with your wife and do not confront the lover
anymore because it would not do you both good – your wife’s lover may just say
this sentence in front of your face “She
told me she loves me” and you are back to zero because you know that your
wife has professed her love to her lover. When bothered, it is always easy to
think of the word “revenge” or “getting back” but life does not end when you
had done revenge, you would end up wanting to do more and more until you are
personally satisfied, so take grudges of you, stand up and move forward for a
whole better you.
