You may have watched the movie unfaithful.
This movie is a very good portrayal of infidelity and cheating spouse and
consequences of the infidelity. After watching this movie you can tell what
factors involved in infidelity. Some people have certain ability to tap into
emotions of others. They may do so knowingly or unknowingly. Men mostly
influence women for fulfilling their desire. While women may influence men to
satisfy their emotions not desires. It is proved and we know that women are
mostly moved by emotions. Men exploit them due to this reason. So it is evident
clearly that in most cases men have a different motive of infidelity than
women. Whatever is the motive cheating spouse man or woman has one thing
in common ‘infidelity’. You cannot justify one’s infidelity because when norms
and institution of marriage are violated society blames the unfaithful one.
Marriage is a part of social mechanics you
cannot expect it to work without two distinct but complementary components man
and women. So when one component fails to collaborate in playing its role then
the system fails. This is what happens in married life. When a member of
marriage that is cheating spouse does not perform its function then your
life is messy. You will not receive intimacy, your household will lose
organization, and if you have children then their innocent minds have a greater
threat than yours. Usually unfaithful spouse may cause wastage of money and
will pose less concern for needs; there will be no talks, a quite cold life.
These things may not seem to be hurting but they will eventually make your life
real bad.
Many researchers, investigators, sex
therapists have made long lists of indicators of a infidel spouse. This list is
exhaustive but not complete. Because it is human nature that we are talking
about, we can never catch human being’s essence. These indicators may tell you
about something fishy but may not tell about what is going on. So it is better
to rely on your instincts because it is you who better understands the scenario
and can evaluate the meaning of a particular sign of cheating. You may think
that your spouse is cheating but in actual things may turn out
differently. So be careful in making your perception so do not chase the shade of
doubt but look for concrete evidence and don’t be decisive until you discover
something.
When you discover something about your cheating spouse, it may have profound effect on your life. People usually suffer
from such situation but do not let yourself suffer and be composed. You can
talk your spouse about what you have observed. If your spouse accepts about
some specific instance then do make haste to decide something. Give it some
time and analyze. Think different aspects of your decision that you want to
make. Specially, when you have children you need to think more carefully
because it is not about you only it is the life of your children. In this case
compromise can have better results in aggregate. You can give chance to your unfaithful spouse to make things better with your help and not letting that happen again.
Different cultures have different meanings of some indicators and in different
cultures there various solutions to cope with this situation. Best solutions id
to give protection to your family and future of society.
